The power of saying no.

June 4, 2021by Shirley Palmer0

Do you often find yourself helping colleagues and friends and just don’t have the time but can’t face the disappointment on their face if you say no?

As children we are taught the so-called importance of right and wrong, and yes and no. How different do you think the world would be if we gave our children the chance to explore themselves? In my own childhood we didn’t have the opportunity to discover the world at large via the World Wide Web but I feel this is more about acknowledging and understanding the right to choose.

Life is about choices. Choosing your education, your career, your partner, your home, where you live, whether to have a family or not, having a pension, investments, enjoying a happy, healthy, and balanced life.

Take a moment and ask yourself who influenced your choices. Here are a few other questions you may wish to ask yourself too.

  • Knowing what you know now would you have made a different choice?
  • Or are you at a stage in your life where you are choosing again?
  • Is it a new career?
  • A new partner?
  • A new home?
  • A lifestyle change?
  • Is there something you really need to say ‘no’ to today?

“Have the courage to say no. Have the courage to face the truth. Do the right thing because it is right. These are the magic keys to living your life with integrity.”

 W Clement Stone

I implore you to think the next time someone asks you to help them; take on their work; give them guidance; support their cause – take those extra few minutes and consider it carefully before answering.

  • Ask yourself how do you feel about it?
  • Do you feel angry?
  • Do you feel anxious?
  • Is there uneasiness in your body?
  • Are you wondering how to fit it in?
  • Are you looking for their approval?
  • Are you staving off disapproval?

Maybe it is time for you to acknowledge your personal power and to learn to say ‘no’ more often. Being able to understand and accept the value of your time, your talents and more importantly not dissipating your energy. When your energy is pulled in too many different directions the body falls out of kilter and our well-being truly suffers.

Why not consider the next week as an opportunity to learn to say ‘no’? Watch and see the changes in your life by simply saying ‘no’. See how much additional time you have available to finish your own projects, to let you have some down time and to not feel every day that life is so rushed you can’t wait for the weekend to have some chill time and enjoy feeling more relaxed.

Life will continue even though you say ‘no’, they will always find another way to do what they needed doing. It doesn’t matter whether you are a parent, a child, a boss, an employee, a husband, wife, partner, lover there will always be a way.

Allow yourself to think about your happiness and remember by saying ‘no’ you allow yourself time to assess when you can truly say ‘yes’.

Thinking about the current scenarios where you feel you cannot say ‘no’? Still in need of some added advice and guidance – then book in a Genius Zone Consult to discover what your current challenges are and explore how I can support you in solving those challenges.


Lastly, value yourself enough to make the choice.

Shirley Palmer

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